Who is Ethics of Talk for?

Safe Conversations is for everyone, since we all can use skills that make our relationships better. It's for people who want to love better and be happier, at home or at work or out in the world in any capacity. This includes singles, couples, friends, relatives, employees and employers - basically anyone who can talk and is over about the age of 14. The skills and understandings are absolutely useful to parents and kids who are even younger, but for kids under 14, I suggest learning in a private setting rather than a workshop. I have couples, singles, parents and adult children come to workshops and for private training.

What will I learn, exactly?

You'll learn a new way to understand your relationships and powerful, practical, transformational, relational skills to improve them. You'll learn why we fight and what's going on for us when we do. You'll learn a reliable methodology that keeps us feeling safe and connected - and when we aren't (because we're human), for restoring ruptured connection. It's a new technology for relationships that's made possible by our newest understanding of brain and relational sciences. Anyone can learn it, and many are amazed by the benefit when they do.

Do I have to know anything or be in a struggling relationship before I learn Safe Conversations?

No. You don't have to know anything, be in a ditch with a relationship, consider yourself spiritual, or anything else like that to learn this. Everyone will benefit, no matter what their relationship status. It doesn't require that you know your "attachment style" or your "love language" or have done therapy, though I promise there will be important realizations about yourself! All it requires is an open mind, a willingness to learn, and the desire to improve your relationships and thus your life.

Do I have to share personal things in the Workshop?

No. Any sharing is optional. You'll practice the skills privately with the person you came with or another participant, if you attend solo.

Will I learn Safe Conversations in one Workshop?

You'll learn the foundations of Safe Conversations in one workshop and are sure to come away with at least one major "aha" moment. You'll learn new things about yourself and the way you relate, for sure. Like any new skill and understanding, some of the new approaches and skills take practice to fully incorporate. For those who want deep and tailored learning right off the bat, I suggest a private course with me.

Is there support for further learning after a Workshop?

Yes. A workshop is a gentle and great place to start. I provide deeper and more tailored learning in private sessions and courses. I also occasionally host online practice sessions at an economical rate where you can practice, ask questions, and get support. I'm with you, on the journey.

Who created Safe Conversations?

New York Times bestselling authors, 17-time Oprah guests and global titans in the relational field, Drs. Helen Hunt and Harville Hendrix created Safe Conversations as the culmination of over 40 years of relationship expertise. My mentors, Helen and Harville's company has trained hundreds of Safe Conversations Instructors to help share this revolutionary skill set that explains and teaches us why we fight, how we can reconnect, and how we can prevent disconnection from happening so often. They wish for Safe Conversation to move beyond the personal; in today's age of strife and division, humanity greatly needs these relational skills so we can peacefully live together while respecting our differences. Yes, it is possible.

Why do you teach Safe Conversations?

Growing up, I saw and experienced relationships that left me unhappy and confused about many things. For years I chose romantic partners and even friends who repeated those frustrations. In my late 20's, I re-discovered the work of Drs. Harville and Helen Hendrix which eventually led me out of that darkness and into more empowerment, understanding and skill in my relationships. More recently Safe Conversations - and not therapy - saved my relationship with my life partner George (at the time we'd been together over 11 years). Witnessing how the Safe Conversations toolbox works in my life and in the lives of those I help and coach in my healing practice, I felt compelled to become an official teacher of this myself. I am driven to share it so more and more may benefit. For more about my journey, here's my bio.